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Relationship Advice: Understanding Why Affairs Happen

August 18, 2011 by

When people come to me looking for relationship advice after an affair, one of the first things I help them understand is why it happens. In my years of experience as a Portland marriage counselor, I’ve dealt with numerous client infidelities, and they all occurred for the same basic reason: the person ...

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Relationship Advice for Preventing Divorce

August 10, 2011 by

My relationship advice to you in order to save your marriage, is to learn and use skills. I believe that by learning relationship skills and tools you can build a stronger, happier marriage. So what skills do you need to strengthen your marriage? What tools give you a chance to save your ...

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Save Your Marriage: Change Your Partner By Changing Yourself

June 14, 2011 by

Save your marriage by focusing on the negative thoughts you’re feeling towards your partner and replacing them with a happy, positive memory of that person the next time a fight feels like it’s about to begin. Relationship problems are always a two-way street, and can be alleviated or made worse by either ...

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Couples Counseling: Dont Let Empty Nest Syndrome Destroy Your Marriage

May 16, 2011 by

Couples counseling can help you work through the feelings of loss and loneliness that parents often experience when children leave the home for good. Though not often cited as a reason for divorce, empty nest syndrome can put a great strain on your marriage. In fact, there has been a steady increase ...

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Save Your Marriage: Arguing Over Chores May Be the Sign of Deeper Problems

May 13, 2011 by

You can save your marriage by tackling a problem as simple as the division of household chores. Whether you’re newly married or just living with your significant other, it’s not uncommon to argue over who should be responsible for what. After all, who wants to spend their time dusting or vacuuming? These ...

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Portland Couples Counselor Says, Don’t Let Aging Tear You and Your Spouse Apart

May 9, 2011 by

As a Portland couples counselor, I can tell you that aging affects marriage. We all change as we age – mentally and emotionally as well as physically – and these changes can negatively affect our relationship with our spouse. You may find that you or your spouse start to have different goals ...

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Relationship Problems: Emotional Affairs Are a Serious Issue

May 5, 2011 by

Some relationship problems aren’t taken as seriously as others. Emotional affairs are one such issue. Because you are not cheating on your partner sexually, you may think it’s not a problem, but the truth is an emotional affair can be just as damaging as a physical one, and you may need couples ...

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