Relationship Help: How to Balance Your Relationship and Friendships

February 3, 2016 by

It’s easy to get caught up in your romantic relationship and let it consume everything you do. Whether it’s a new relationship or a long-term one, you want to spend time with your partner because you love them and want to experience things together. But you also have other important people in your life who shouldn’t fall by the wayside just because you’re in a relationship.

You should strive to be both a good partner and a good friend by learning how to balance your relationship and friendships. It’s important to find that balance, because a great relationship shouldn’t hold you back from either your friends or from having a life outside of that relationship. A great relationship should actually encourage you to have friends and your own life.

Here are some tips on how you can balance and maintain both your relationship and friendships.

Talk to your partner and your friends. Communication is an important part of any relationship. Tell your friends that you want to keep being a good friend, and if they feel that you’re neglecting them for your relationship they should let you know. Also talk to your partner and let them know that your friends are a big part of your life and you plan to make time for them.

Stick to your commitments. This might be a hard one, but if you make plans with someone, you have to stick to it. If you have plans to have dinner with your friends, don’t cancel on them because your partner wants to see a movie. Your friends will get mad at you. The opposite situation is also true. If you have plans with your partner, don’t blow them off for your friends. The only time you can cancel plans is if something serious happens and everyone should understand.

Plan group outings. You probably want to be able to spend time with both your friends and your partner, but sometimes time is scarce. So why not plan an outing that everyone can attend? This is a great way to catch up with your friends while also spending time with your partner. Your partner can also invite their friends and you can kill three birds with one stone!

Create designated friend nights. If you have a hard time balancing your time, you might want to create specific nights where you know you will be spending time with your friends. Schedule a weekly or monthly friend night not only to ensure you’ll get together but also so your partner knows you’ll be busy on that particular day and can maybe make plans of their own.

It’s important to spend time with your partner, but it’s also important to spend time away from them. So while it’s not always easy to balance all of the people in your life, your romantic relationship and friendships will be better and healthier if you put forth a little effort and make them both a priority.

If you’re interested in more tips on balancing friends and your partner, or if you need further relationship help, contact a Portland marriage counselor today.