Relationship Advice: What Men Want from Marriage

May 24, 2012 by

Recently, I shared some relationship advice about how to make wives happier – so it’s only fair that I give some suggestions for the other side. Every husband is different, but these are some ideas that may help you get a start from my experience as a Portland marriage counselor.

Believe in him. For many men, being able to protect and provide for their family is important to their identity, so be supportive. Let him know that you believe in his abilities.

Compliment him. When he accomplishes something, share your pride! This doesn’t mean you have to go over the top, but just a simple acknowledgement can go a long way.

Practice acceptance. Remember that you are both separate individuals with different needs and points of view. Instead of trying to change your husband, see if you can accept your differences.

Ask about his day. Take the time to understand what your husband’s day-to-day life is like. Make an effort to listen to his successes and frustrations.

Give him downtime. When your husband is tired from a long day at work or in the middle of a task, he may feel overwhelmed by chatter. Get to the point – or wait until it’s a better time.

Show your love. Just like you enjoy it when he takes your hand or surprises you with a kiss, men like affection. Find small ways to be romantic on a regular basis.

Be respectful. How would you like it if your husband rolled his eyes in response to something you said, or disregarded your feelings on a decision? Practice respect even if you’re frustrated.

Get Relationship Advice When You Need It

Hopefully, this article gave you a good starting point for improving your marriage, but if you need additional help, I recommend talking to a Portland marriage counselor for personalized relationship advice.