Relationship Advice: Improve Your Emotional Communication

February 18, 2015 by

Whether you and your partner have been dating for ten days or ten years, relationships can be hard to maintain. Communication is critical, especially when it comes to expressing your emotions. For plenty of couples, though, emotional conversations are often the hardest ones to have. Sometimes they may seem downright impossible.

Luckily, there’s hope. As with all things, there’s no one-size-fits-all conversation style for couples. If grand, emotional conversations aren’t your style, don’t worry. There are other ways to communicate emotionally.

Subtly Increase Your Emotional Connectivity

Even if you or your partner struggles with those big emotional conversations, there are other ways for you to connect emotionally as a couple. A great article on Psychology Today suggests six ways you and your partner can improve your emotional communication:

  1. Don’t overlook small talk. Sometimes, the little conversations, the seemingly mundane, drab ones, can be just as good as the big ones. If your partner is happy to talk about the weather or about his day at work, participate in those dialogues. Those seemingly small conversations actually have potential for big connections.
  2. Share time. This doesn’t necessarily mean going on huge vacations together—this can be as simple as sharing time together on the couch in the evening, reading books or doing crosswords. Make a grocery list together, go for a walk together, or just sit and eat breakfast together.
  3. Listen. Really listen.  When your partner speaks, make sure that you are giving him your undivided attention. If it’s okay with him, interject now and then just to make sure you really understand everything he is saying. Don’t hijack the conversation, but checking in every once in a while to make sure you’re still on the same page can be extremely helpful.
  4. Ask questions. Even if you’ve been together for 20 years, chances are there are things about your partner that you don’t know. Even if you knew her favorite movie when you first got together, it may have changed since then! Check in once in a while and really listen to your partner’s answers.
  5. Talk about yourself. Revealing personal information is one of the most important parts of maintaining a relationship. Be open to the fact that sharing information about yourself could inspire your partner sharing information about herself—it might become a dialogue more than a monologue, which will be good for both of you.
  6. Learn from what works. Pay attention to how your partner reacts to each little thing that you two do together. If certain things inspire him to open up more or put you in a place of better emotional connectivity, do more of that.

Maintaining relationships can be difficult, but by tweaking your efforts to match each other’s preferences and styles, you and your partner can build a beautiful, lasting relationship.

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