Portland Marriage Counselor on Body Image as We Age

November 7, 2011 by

In my work as a Portland marriage counselor, I’ve noticed that one of the major issues older couples struggle with in their sex lives is body image. As we age, we may feel less desirable. After all, the media often holds up a particular body type as “sexy,” and it becomes even harder (and eventually just impossible) to live up to this ideal as we get older. This self-image affects your behaviors and can put a rift between you and your partner.

But that media-reinforced ideal wasn’t set by your spouse, and it wasn’t set by you. So why are you letting it get between you? If you aren’t feeling as sexy as you used to, talk to your partner about it. It’s likely he or she is going through something similar. After all, you’re both aging. Share what you find sexy about your spouse, and ask that he or she do the same for you.

Another way to feel more confident in your own body is to take care of it. Eat healthy, exercise regularly, and visit your doctor regularly. Consider this not just good medical advice but also good relationship advice. As a Portland marriage counselor, I’ve seen that when my clients are feeling more in control of their bodies it helps them to feel sexier too.

Talk to a Portland Marriage Counselor to Improve Your Self-Image

Your body is constantly changing from the moment you are born until the day you leave this Earth. Learn to be grateful for these changes and to appreciate all the stages your body goes through. If you find yourself disbelieving that your partner finds you sexy, consider that this is likely more a reflection about how you feel than how your partner feels. In this case, it may be helpful to talk to a Portland marriage counselor.