Divorce and Separation

To save your marriage, it’s not uncommon for couples to want to separate as a way to calm things down and relieve tension. While having time away from one another might bring momentary peace, trying to save your relationship this way is dangerous.

Portland Relationship Therapy: Divorce Surge Over

January 28, 2015 by

Marriage sometimes gets a bad rap.

Too often, individuals vilify marriage as a dated institution, citing rising divorce rates to justify their claim. But the truth of the matter is, it’s these rising divorce rate statistics that are themselves dated. In fact, marriage today is in the healthiest state it’s been in ...

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Portland Relationship Counselor says Conflict Should Lead to Connection Not Divorce

August 21, 2012 by

As a Portland relationship counselor, one of my greatest rewards and toughest challenges is instilling hope in couples that are struggling with despair. This is never an easy task when a couple has been in conflict for years and not sought help.

When divorce lawyers give couples a survey designed to understand ...

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You Can Avoid a Divorce Says Portland Marriage Counselor

August 14, 2012 by

If you are considering a divorce, this Portland Marriage Counselor wants you to stop. Ending a marriage is almost always unnecessary, painful and regrettable.

Being upset enough to consider “marriage suicide” is a terrible state. Once you both felt happy and excited, like soul mates. Time passed and struggles ensued and now ...

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Why Do Happy Newlyweds Eventually Divorce?

November 16, 2011 by

Relationship problems are often the least of your worries when you’re a newlywed. Most couples are still riding high on all those wonderful “love” hormones. The world seems perfect, and you know you found your soul mate. So why do some of these happy couples end up divorcing years down the road? ...

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Seek Relationship Help. Divorce Doesnt Always Come with No Regrets

November 13, 2011 by

Seeking relationship help may still be an option even if you have already started divorce proceedings. In a recent study by William J. Doherty, divorcing parents were asked if they were interested in services to help them reconcile. At least 10% of the couples were both interested, and at least 30% of ...

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Portland Marriage Counselor Debunks Myth That Divorce Follows Extended Misery

November 3, 2011 by

As a Portland marriage counselor, I find that most people believe divorce occurs after a long period of misery and intense conflict between the spouses, but from my practice, I can tell you that’s not usually the case. Recent studies support what I’ve seen firsthand. About 50 to 66% of couples who ...

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Portland Marriage Counselor’s Advice on Avoiding Same-Sex Divorce

October 24, 2011 by

As a Portland marriage counselor, I have helped many same-sex couples avoid divorce. Even if you aren’t able to legally marry in the state of Oregon, many couples still consider themselves married and have committed to a lifelong relationship with their partner. The pain of divorce is the same, even without the ...

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