Affairs

When people come to me looking for relationship advice after an affair, one of the first things I help them understand is why it happens. In my years of experience as a Portland marriage counselor, I’ve dealt with numerous client infidelities, and they all occurred for the same basic reason.

Portland Relationship Therapist: 5 Ways Couples Move on after Infidelity

October 26, 2016 by

For many couples, adultery can feel like a final straw, with no solution but divorce.

However, infidelity can be forgiven, and there are couples that have moved on from the event to lead a happy, loving marriage.

If your marriage has recently been shaken by infidelity and you believe you need professional ...

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Portland Marriage Counselor: Overcoming the Temptation to Cheat

January 21, 2015 by

It happens—even the happiest of married individuals occasionally might feel tempted to cheat on their spouse. After all, we’re only human. It’s natural to feel attracted to other people from time to time, and even develop feelings for someone else while still being in love with your partner.

However, a strong and ...

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Portland Relationship Counselor Discusses Why Affairs Happen

October 8, 2014 by

Typically, an affair is a sign that something else is wrong in your relationship – it is not merely a desire to wander. Luckily, you can identify the issues that commonly lead to affairs and work on fixing those issues before they become problematic.

The most common issues that lead to affairs ...

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Portland Relationship Counseling: Virtual Cheating Causes Real Hurt

April 13, 2013 by

Some of my Portland relationship counseling clients who see me due to an affair are at first surprised to be there. Not because they assumed that their spouse would simply divorce them, but because they didn’t think that they were doing anything wrong.

Why? Because their affair was a virtual one.

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Affairs Are Not Spontaneous, Says Portland Marriage Counselor

April 1, 2013 by

As a Portland marriage counselor, I’ve heard it all:

“I wasn’t intending for anything to happen, but one thing just led to another.”

“It’s not like I went looking for an affair.”

Here’s the thing though. There’s a good chance that’s exactly what you did. It might not have been conscious on ...

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Affairs Aren’t the Answer, Says Portland Marriage Counselor

January 22, 2013 by

You’d think that the people coming to see a Portland marriage counselor would all be trying to find out how to fight for their relationship, but every now and then, I’ll talk to someone who really just wants me permission to cheat on his or her spouse.

The situations are usually pretty ...

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Learn How to Talk About an Affair from a Portland Marriage Counselor

December 4, 2012 by

As a Portland marriage counselor, I’ve seen firsthand the devastation that affairs can cause to relationships. No one likes to discover that their partner has betrayed their trust and gone outside of their marriage looking for intimacy.

But some people – even ones who are truly sorry for what they’ve done and ...

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