Portland Relationship Counselor: Poor College Students Less Likely to Marry

March 10, 2012 by

Recently, I was surprised to read in a study that people from lower-income backgrounds who attend colleges and universities are far less likely than their more affluent peers to get married. As a Portland relationship counselor, this seemed very strange to me. One would think that – rich or poor – the college environment would offer marriage help by catering to people of similar mental capabilities. It should make it more likely for people to find matches, shouldn’t it?

But it turns out that the social atmosphere of college didn’t act as marriage help for poorer university students because they weren’t experiencing it. Whereas their more affluent counterparts could afford to go out with friends, or even just take time off to attend parties and join clubs, college students struggling to pay for their education were more likely to use their “free” time for studies or a job. College was a means to an education and a higher-paying career than their parents – even if it meant skipping the “fun” parts of higher education.

Unfortunately, by skipping college socialization, they are missing one of the biggest and most available pools of people in their age range they’ll ever be around. If they wait until after school to start looking for love, it may seem like everyone else has already paired off – or they just won’t know how to find people their own age now that that big, available pool has disappeared.

Portland Relationship Counselor: Do Poorer People Have to Choose Between Love and Education?

Absolutely not. In fact, higher education is a necessity in today’s world, and will only become more important as time goes on. Those who end up missing out on the social aspects of college will simply need more marriage help. Where their more affluent friends might have been able to fall into their relationships because of the sheer number of available people around, they will have to seek out those people.

What does this mean? Dating sites, joining groups or clubs, or even just going out with friends and actively trying to pick up people. Essentially, you’re not going to be able to just “fall into it” like you might have done in college – you’re going to have to work harder. But hey, if your track record at college proves anything, it’s that you know how to work hard!

For more advice on finding love and relationships as an adult, contact a Portland relationship counselor.