Many older couples seek relationship advice in Portland marriage counseling for problems with intimacy. As we age, we often experience lower sexual desire and have concerns about how we look or can perform. But there’s good news! Most people can still have an active and satisfying sex life. A recent study published in the American [...]

Many clients at my Portland relationship counselor practice are embarrassed when they come to discuss problems in their sex life. Not only because of the intimate nature of the admission, but because many of them – especially those in long-term relationships – feel like their sexual unhappiness is something that they should just grin and [...]

As our population continues to live longer and more fully, I find that I’m seeing more couples in their 60s and even 70s come to Portland marriage counseling with relationship issues. While issues at this stage of the relationship can come from numerous things, including children leaving the nest for good, there’s one that always [...]

As a Portland marriage counselor, I’ve listened to countless women tell me that all their boyfriends or husbands ever think about is sex. And we’ve all heard the statistic that men have a sexual thought every seven seconds, right? For a 16 hour waking day, that would be 8,000 sex thoughts!
Well, a Psychology professor at [...]

In my work as a Portland marriage counselor, I’ve noticed that one of the major issues older couples struggle with in their sex lives is body image. As we age, we may feel less desirable. After all, the media often holds up a particular body type as “sexy,” and it becomes even harder (and eventually [...]

Sex is wonderful for a marriage. But this Portland marriage counselor knows that cuddling is what helps couples stay together for a lifetime. Intimate cuddling provides more than sensuality, but also the feelings of, comfort, security and companionship. Research shows that cuddling releases the “bonding hormone”, oxytocin.
Portland Marriage Counselor says that Hormones Help Intimacy
Oxytocin makes [...]

Marriage therapy can help you get the love you want by showing you how to improve your sex life. And if you’re like many people in a long-term relationship, that kind of help can’t come soon enough. A report in The Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that 54 percent of men and 42 [...]

This Portland marriage counselor hears regularly the sad truth about lagging sexual desire in women. My female clients feel not only guilty that they don’t feel a spark often enough, but they also feel disappointed and cheated.  In an article in Psychology Today explains that while most men have a sexual response pattern of thinking [...]

I recently came across yet another article about the sexless marriage by Camille Paglia.  As a Portland marriage counselor I am concerned at the rising need for a female Viagra and a culture that is highly sexualized by the media, but actually sex-starved at home.  Although a rather academic article (to read see link above) [...]

Being a marriage counselor in Portland, Oregon, means that I talk to couples and individuals regularly about improving their sexual desire. Sex drive has many contributing factors. Web MD suggests that there are 12 major areas that are “Sex Drive Killers” for women and men:

Stress
Relationship Problems
Alcohol
Parenting (privacy problems)
Too little sleep
Medication
Body image
Obesity
Low testosterone
Depression
Menopause
Too little intimacy [...]